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Life after family break-up: research challenges proposal to change law

Posted on behalf of: Sussex Law School

Last updated: Wednesday, 21 November 2012


Thia is a timely and most important report for all those concerned with the parenting and wellbeing of children.

It is not unusual for children to be separated from one or both parents for considerable periods of time, eg boarding schools or a parent working abroad on extended assignments. If the absent parent maintains good levels of communication and interest in the life and wellbeing of the child, an excellent relationship can be maintained without any sense of loss for child or parent.

Many non-resident parents had minimal interaction on specified regular occasions when the family lived together, because of working commitments and the childrens' own activities.The children are therefore much more relaxed about the regularity of their contact.The issue for them is the quality of their interaction when they can be together

Too often, parents are so pre-occupied with their own needs during a diivorce that they cannot focus on the needs of their children.This is particularly difficult for the non resident parent, who is often unable to see the scale of necessary commitments in the children's own lives and unable to grasp the toxic effect on their relationship with the children, if they are experienced as harassing the resident parent unreasonably.

As a retired GaL and Family Mediator, I think that it is essential for the Courts to retain their discretion with regard to contact. The over-riding priority must be the needs of the child - without this provision, some children will continue to be put at risk of abuse.

From Gillian Maher on 21 November 2012
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